By now we all know which of the five love languages best represents us, our partners, our best friends and even our parents. And if not, we recommend finding out.
When we understand the way someone close to us values and receives love, we’re better equipped to make them feel heard, appreciated and cared about. Which in turn, leads to happier people and flourishing relationships.
Think of it this way: have you ever wondered why that present your dad loved, hardly even prompted your mum to crack a smile?
It might be because her love language is quality time. Meaning? She’d rather the both of you go for a walk than receive a hamper of body wash in the mail (no matter how good it may smell).
Your dad, however? He’s a gifts man, so keep the beard oil coming.
Got it? Ok, now quickly cast your mind away from your parents and onto your partner because the same method of thinking applies when we’re determining what keeps us happy in the bedroom.
Only this time with a new set of intimacy-related languages to choose from.
We warned you to stop thinking about your parents!
What is a sex language?
Outside of the obvious benefits – *ahem orgasming* – determining your sex language will strengthen existing relationships, improve the chances of success in future relationships and allow us to form closer bonds with ourselves and our partners.
“When two people keep giving love in their own sex language [without proper interpretation from their partner], it can lead to frustration and a lack of fulfillment that can continue for years,” said sex-psychologist Dr. Doug Weiss.
Which sex language are you?
Have a read of the five most common below to discover which one you relate with most. You may even be a mix of one or two…
Then, share it with your partner and watch the sparks fly.
#1 Fun
If you love having spontaneous sex in locations outside of the bedroom, then fun sex is your language.
You are in your element when you are getting creative with your lover. Think late nights in the office, day trips to a secret beach… dare we go on?
#2 Desire
This is the sex language of those who like to be chased.
Your sexual experience will be at its peak when you feel like you’ve been pursued. You love it when your partner plans their sexual time with you, and you know they are really wanting you.
#3 Pleasure
This language is for those who love to please their partner.
If you are always curious to know what positions or acts are your partner’s favourite, then this is your sex language. Exploring and being explored will take sex to the next level for you.
#4 Patience
If you like sex to be gentle and slow, both before, during and after, then this is you.
You like for your sexual experience to take an extended period of time. Take advantage of a sleepy Sunday and let it take all morning.
#5 Acceptance and celebration
You want every part of you to be appreciated during every phase of sex (who doesn’t?!).
If your sex language is acceptance/celebration, you will feel far more satisfied during sex if you know you are valued by your partner. Not just your body or sexually, but that every facet of you is accepted.
Did you know about sex laungages? Which one do you relate to most?
hhmm…. Im thinking im parts of each and everyone of those. I cant pick just one.
Hahaha, I was just thinking the same one
Grrrrr. Another sex article on a beauty site. Just nooooo!
I guess they do have all those sex toys in the rewards rooms and in the product search so it makes a bit of sense
a bit of fun ?
There’s also mum and baby stuff on here, too. Should we get rid of that?
I think Sex is something that is part of life and if done right certainly makes you feel beautiful.
so true and very important if you are in a special relationship.
I’m thinking all of the above
My sex language at the moment is go away and leave me alone, just let me sleep! (I’m sick, but not contagious).
When you are sick you just want tosleep.
We when you are sick you need consideration and that works too as you appreciate your partner too if they are caring and supportive
TracyMatt I’ve reported the previous post as spam. Ggggggrrrrr go away!
Ok so I’m all of them? Nice lol
me too and why not
Rose_P afraid I am the same way as well just not interested in Sex when you are in pain. Unfortunately my husband doesn’t understand that at all.
1-3 are my jam!
I am a little bit of this and a little bit of that. I have to say I do enjoy my sleep these days, zzzzzz lol.
If he talks, everything is finished before it starts.
My husband is definitely one of these, I’m none of these, so we go with his style.
As long as it works for you too that is cool
A bit of all of them, but mostly number 3
Just give me a hug please
we all need those
I have been through all these stages throughout my years. I suppose life changes.
Yep 1-3 haha 🙂
Couldn’t agree more. Sex can cause a lot of issues in partnership and if we dont feel that our partner understands us and our feelings especially with sex we can feel so neglected and unseen
A combination of all of these would be the healthiest approach I think.
totally
Mine is, you go and put your feet up with a good book. I’ll make you a nice cup of tea and cook dinner for you. Yeah right!! Married too long!!!
never !!! always some spark hidden in there XX
When you are sick you just want tosleep.
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An interesting concept!
Hahahaha
I would say all of the above
I’ve heard of love language but not sex language
Same.
Same!
Interesting article, maybe a bit of all of them.
I watched the Bachelor last night and they were talking about the 5 love languages. This 5 sex languages is a new one to me.
MMM these are interesting -depends on the mood at the time
Yes I think I would agree. Do men have them as well?
After more than 20 years with my partner I think we’ve been through all of these. Probably #5 now. But depending on the mood and location the others still apply.
This is the first time I’ve heard of them.
Well that helps to explain many of my past disastrous relationships.
Seems that you would need to use some or all of the 5 Sex Languages in different ways interesting subject.
Is this a thing? I guess I am a little of all of them then… Maybe more than are mentioned too… ??
I have never thought of which one I am!!
Me either
Fair enough each to their own
Great article thanks for the info
Haven’t seen Mr Big around
Me either!
Whoops… my reply was to Normap
I’m #6 – the shop is shut for good!
I suppose desire is important, but I like to take charge.
Wow. So many definition.It seems i went through all of these.
Surely there are more than 5…
I would think most people would switch between several different “languages” at different times.
I’d imagine that these are all interchangable to a degree
I can think of a few more.
Interesting…